Negativity? You can exit to the left thanks

Friday, June 05, 2015


Negativity in life is inevitable - Negativity about the way you might live your life, negativity about the choices you make, negativity from people around you, negativity from family, friends, social media, inside yourself, literally everywhere.

Who has time for that though? No we can't change it working its way into our lives, however we can change the way we approach and deal with negative people and situations. 

Trust me, I can be a moody Margaret at the best of times, because lets be honest I'm only human. But the power that negativity has on us can be channelled into something so much more worth while!!

These are some tips that have personally worked in helping me spring clean negativity out of my life:

Set a limit for what you will tolerate

Don't feel as though it is necessary for you to endure negativity in your life. I can understand that it may be stemming from family and friends, and 'burning their bridges' can seem not only rash but a bit ridiculous, but the more time you force yourself to surround yourself with it, the easier it becomes for a negative attitude to seep its way into your lives. You cannot control someone else's negative words or actions but you can control whether or not you entertain it. 

Avoid complainers who don't 'do' like the plague

Complaining is natural, we all do it. But the difference is whether or not you are pro-active in changing your situation. These type of people don't offer solutions, they only point out problems. So instead of resolving issues and 'do-ing' they don't, and wallow in their own self pity, bringing you down with them. Don't allow yourself to get caught up in this.

Spend a maximum of 5 minutes on the situation

Avoid indulging in negativity. If you feel yourself falling into its trap, and just want to be down and upset (because sometimes it is necessary), limit yourself to 5 minutes. After that, tell yourself to build a bridge and get over it. 

Learn to disengage 

If people are around you speaking negatively or trying to bring you down, learn to disengage yourself. Literally mute them out. Don't let their words get to you and don't even give yourself an opportunity to consider what they're saying. Practice patience and just remind yourself that they are not in the position you are in. They may not be heading to where you are headed. Do what you can to prevent yourself from emotionally investing yourself in someone else's issues.

Read positive articles and books

I love to read, and sometimes hearing something from someone else can be a more effective source of motivation than just telling what you know to yourself. Some articles and books that I'd recommend regarding dealing with negativity are linked below.

Surround yourself with do-ers and Positive Patricia's

"The company you keep will affect the opportunities you meet." Surround yourself with people that inspire you and motivate you to do better. 

“Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and thinkers, but most all, surround yourself with those who see greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.”

Feel free to share this article with people that you think it might help and remember life is too short.

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